Experience Personal Relationships That Match the Caliber of Your Career.
I help successful professionals bridge the gap between career success and relationship fulfillment. Together, we bypass traditional, circular talk therapy, using EMDR to rewire exhausting relational patterns at the root so you can step into steady, secure confidence.
You’ve completely mastered your professional world, but your closest relationships feel exhausting.
On paper, you’ve mastered your career. But in your personal life, whether with a romantic partner, your children, or your family, you are secretly carrying a heavy weight. When it comes to deep connection, your nervous system automatically defaults to protective survival patterns that leave you feeling drained, disconnected, or stuck.
Usually, it shows up in one of these ways:
The Anxious Over-Functioner: You experience a deep, suffocating spike of relationship anxiety. You find yourself overanalyzing brief texts, over-compensating for everyone else's needs, and constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop.
The Detached Protector: The moment emotional pressure or vulnerability builds, you hit an invisible wall. You shut down, pull back into work, or retreat into fierce independence because truly relying on anyone else feels unsafe.
The Emotional Tug-of-War: You get caught in the whiplash of both, intensely craving closeness with the people you love, but instinctively freezing or panicking the moment they actually try to get close to you.
Attachment-based, online EMDR therapy helps rewire these automatic relational survival patterns at the root. Let's move your nervous system out of hyper-vigilance and exhausting disconnect, and into steady, authentic, secure functioning with your partner, your loved ones, and yourself.
The Exhausting Cycle of High-Functioning Relationships
Alexandra Brown, LCSW Advanced Therapy for High Achievers
Attachment EMDR Therapist for Ambitious Professionals & Parents
Alexandra Brown, LCSW CA #103037
Licensed Clinical Social Worker + Clinical Supervisor
EMDRIA EMDR CertIfied
Healing the Internal Tug-of-War Between Anxiety and Detachment
Hi, I’m Alexandra. I’m so grateful you’re here. As a licensed therapist, business owner, wife of 18 years, and mother to four children, I deeply understand the intense juggling act of a high-demand life.
For years, I’ve worked with incredibly driven, successful people who have completely mastered their careers, but are secretly carrying a heavy, exhausting weight in their relationships. I quickly realized that traditional talk therapy wasn't helping people break these cycles. It feels nice to vent, but it doesn't stop the sudden physical panic of the anxiety, nor does it dissolve the automatic urge to shut down and isolate.
Moving Beyond Talk Therapy: A Focused Approach to Secure Healing
Everything changed when I integrated a unique blend of attachment-focused EMDR and IFS (Internal Family Systems) into my practice. Together, we stop just talking about these patterns. Instead, we work at the level of the nervous system:
IFS (Internal Family Systems): We look at the exact parts of you caught in this tug-of-war; the part that panics and over-functions, and the part that shuts down and detaches to keep you safe. We work to safely rewrite the deep-seated survival strategies that successfully protected you in childhood, but are now sabotaging your adulthood.
Attachment-Focused EMDR: By targeting the root of relational experiences, we bypass the logical mind to update your internal defense systems, naturally shifting your nervous system out of survival mode and into a clear, centered, and deeply anchored place within yourself.
Step into True, Relaxed, Emotional Availability
Once we do this deep work, that exhausting survival mode finally stops. The constant, quiet buzz of anxietyl the hyper-vigilance, the overanalyzing, and the endless tracking of your partner’s every move, finally goes quiet. Or, that heavy, thick emotional wall you've relied on for protection naturally dissolves.
The professionals and parents I work with learn how to soothe that inner panic and open up those guarded spaces, stepping into true, relaxed emotional availability and authentic connection. You will know how to communicate your needs without spinning, and you will be able to receive intimacy without freezing or pulling away. You can finally feel emotionally present with your partner and show up for your children with a calm, regulated presence, experiencing personal relationships that match the high caliber of your life’s ambitions.
Online EMDR Therapy Tailored for Busy California Lives
I am so honored to have helped so many successful California professionals and parents dismantle their outdated relational survival patterns. It is an absolute privilege to watch the driven individuals I support break generational cycles, cultivate deep intimacy in their relationships, and step into the steady, loving, and connected lives they genuinely deserve.
If you are ready to move out of survival mode and finally experience secure, authentic healing, I’d be honored to support with you.
Ready to Move Out of Survival Mode? Let’s Connect!
Return to a Steady, Centered Space in Your Relationships.
Investment & Fees:
Your investment for a standard clinical session is $175. I view therapy as a profound commitment to your well-being and personal growth, one that yields far greater, lasting returns than the heavy emotional toll of staying stuck in the same exhausting cycles.
I do have sliding scale rates at times. Please contact.